What drives a person to go for a stable, low risk job that’s not really fun?
What drives another person to start his own business which has more risk but more reward?
Let’s say another person stays in a shitty relationship, where the other looks for something better. What is the difference? It are the core values of a person.
We all have an internal compass that guides our decisions. This comes in the form of core values.
All our thoughts, actions and subsequent results derive from this root in our mind structure. This is what singlehandedly will determine if true success will be achieved. Or rather, it determines what you actually measure your success with (on a subconscious level), but it might not be aligned with what you dream about.
Most of us are not aware of it and are thus, unconsciously, subjected to whatever this internal compass guides to. Let me tell you, probably it’s not what you want it guiding to. It will guide to whatever society, or whatever local group you are affiliating with, think is correct behavior.
Basically you’re being acted on by the rest of the world. Forget about what the fuck you want, because you are not getting it. Assuming society knows what is right, or that it even wants the best for you, is like walking on the highway for the entirety of your life and hoping not to get hit by a car. You’re gonna get hit and gonna get fucked over.
It is better to have some thought about what you want for yourself… and then go for it.
Shift your core values
If you like to procrastinate, then it is likely that you are doing that because you are fearing failure. Let’s say you are procrastinating because you fear the opinion of others on the work you perform. So, you go back to the comfort of not being judged rather than adding value to your life. It goes so far that people won’t even have to see your work, it can be completely private. However there is an internal nagging voice inside of you doing the judging instead of the other people. How nice…
In this case your core value is comfort, or going further, retaining social status (when people judge you, you feel inferior and lower in status). Rather than adding value to your life you choose to stay where you are, essentially stripping value from your life. When you think of it, people don’t die of critique so what’s even the point in procrastinating for this reason?
Choose progress over comfort as core value if you want to keep adding value to your life.
What other core values do you wish to choose for yourself? Decide right now what is important and relevant to you and choose to live by it until it is in your subconscious.